This page is built upon my recent studies and practices. The content from the 1-minute videos linked below come from multiple sources: the books “How to Fight” by Thich Nhat Hanh, “Total Meditation” by Deepak Chopra, Brene Brown’s work, and some of my own musings.
The truth is that these topics below are really reminders for me. They are part of my journey. I am sharing them in the off chance that they may also be helpful for you on your own unique journey.
Posts in the series
You may believe that you are the only one who suffers and that the other person is thoughtless or vindictive and that’s why they made you suffer.
We practice Shamatha to slow down our agitated mind and gain stability. When we offer our mind a chance to calm down, we are offering ourselves a chance to observe and understand our inner workings.
When we’re caught in a store of emotions, we can practice to be like the trunk and become still, not carried away by our thinking and emotions.
It is by looking deeply into the nature of suffering that we discover the path of transformation and healing.
When we recognize someone is suffering, it’s easy to accept them and have compassion.
With looking deeply and the practice of compassionate dialogue, we can transform misperceptions and anger into understanding and love. just as a gardener can transform compost to grow beautiful flowers and vegetables.
Gentleness is powerful. When we use gentle and loving speech, we are able to transform all the anger, fear, resentment and suspicion in our communication.
It is important to breathe before speaking in an emotional or tense situation.
This is the third post in a series of encouragement and thought based upon “How to Fight” by Thich Nhat Hanh.
Recommendation: take 1 minute to watch video in this post called LISTEN TO YOURSELF before you watch the one below. (Apologies in advance for the wind in the mic.) If you want to see all of the other posts in the series, visit my HOW TO FIGHT Encouragement Page.
I am starting a new series on TikTok. He is the first video about listening to yourself. It is from a book called, “How to Fight” by Thich Nhat Hanh. If you want to see all of the other posts in the series, visit my HOW TO FIGHT Encouragement Page.
Sometimes you believe that you are doing something out of love and in the service of another person’s happiness. But if you do not act from a place of deep understanding of the other person, your actions may actually be making them suffer.
We can only listen to another person and understand their suffering if we have first looked deeply, embraced and been kind to our own fear and anger.
May I be happy.
May I have a peaceful heart.
May I embody loving kindness
One of the deepest things we can learn is we should not be too sure of our own ideas. Don’t be fooled by your perceptions. Even if you are sure you are seeing clearly, check again.
Keep an open mind. Be ready to let go of your views.
And when we better understand ourselves, we also open doors to a peace, calm and stillness that in turn, opens even more doors in the relationships that matter most.
Part 17 of the “How to Fight” Encouragement Series. Check out my ENCOURAGEMENT PAGE to see the other posts in this series. What could we really mean if we think or say we hate someone?
Have you ever been driving a route you normally take and come upon a sign that said the road was closed?
The same can happen to us in our relationships. We can think we are on a path and suddenly find that path is closed.
Sometimes we have the impression that someone intentionally wants to make us suffer. Believing this, we can get very angry.
Questioning our perceptions and listening deeply without prejudice or judgment is a very strong practice.
Calming our emotions and looking deeply, we can become aware of our feelings and of whatever misperceptions we might have that could prevent us from hearing and understanding the other person.
Increasing our understanding and compassion makes our heart grow greater
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