Saying whatever we want, whenever we want, however we want is not freedom. Real freedom is not feeling the need to say these things.
The "Give A Gift" video provides a strategy to help you soften toward someone else with whom you may have negative feelings.
Have you ever been driving a route you normally take and come upon a sign that said the road was closed? The same can happen to us in our relationships. We can think we are on a path and suddenly find that path is closed.