The desire to understand ourselves and to understand life is a deep thirst. There’s also the deep thirst to be loved and to love.
Becoming YOU is not a destination: it is a practice. And with every new moment in our lives, we get to practice.
We cannot go back, and we can't be in the future. So we have to be and give our best in every "right now" that we have.
Often we cannot love ourselves or others fully when we are stuck in our own complexes.
We can only listen to another person and understand their suffering if we have first looked deeply, embraced and been kind to our own fear and anger.